Dear Bruce,

What should I do if I’ve been with my fiancee for over 9 years, with kids, and he won’t stop verbally abusing me?  He calls me names like “whore”, “cunt”, and “bitch” for NO reason at all. I’ve been faithful, and he knows that.  He is constantly apologizing about it, but CAN’T STOP! I’ve tried praying about it, talking to him, and his mother… Nothing is working!  HELP!  It even happens in front of the little ones.

Daisden Confused

Houston, TX

Dear Daisden,

GET YOUR HAT AND YOUR COAT.

No ultimatum, no “second” or 772nd chance, no nothin.  BOUNCE.  That shit’s BEEN over.  Why are you still holding on?  The kids?  Because you think they need to be around their dad, in a home environment?

Make like a tree, and LEAVE.  It’s doing them psychological damage, and they’re going to think that’s acceptable.  Meaning your son(s) will treat their women in that manner, and/or your daughter(s) will seek out and accept that behavior from a man, because that’s what mommy put up with, and that must be what love is.

You won’t be able to tell them SHIT, because they see that EVERY DAY.  They’re being hard-wired to think that way, just like your fiancee has been hard-wired to think that way.  And really, its nobody’s fault.  But you have to distance yourself NOW.  Not now, but right now.  Scary, right? Feel the fear, and do it anyway.

Its up to YOU to break these chains.

Teach your kids that they can be strong enough to leave a situation like that, if they ever find themselves in one.

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